The Wedding Day Moment Most Couples Miss

There are thousands of tips floating around the wedding world, but every once in a while someone offers advice so real and so necessary that it rises above the rest. Officiant Shawn Miller shared his number one wedding day tip, and it is one of the most grounding pieces of wisdom a couple can hear.

He tells his couples to disappear for fifteen to twenty minutes right after the ceremony. Behind a locked door. No vendors. No family. No friends. No one knocking. Just the two of you, taking back one of the most important moments of the entire day.

Because here is the truth. Weddings move fast. Faster than anyone expects. You walk down the aisle, you say your vows, you have your first kiss, and before you can process anything, you are being guided to the next thing. A glass of champagne is waiting. Someone wants a hug. Someone wants a photo. Someone is trying to pull you into cocktail hour. Suddenly, the whirlwind begins and you are swept into the rest of your timeline with barely a chance to breathe.

Shawn’s advice creates a pause. A soft moment in the middle of the chaos. A moment that belongs solely to the two of you.

Imagine closing the door behind you and letting silence settle for the first time all day. Imagine looking at the person you just married and saying, “We did it.” No pressure. No audience. No timeline. Just two people in love, catching their breath and letting the moment sink in. Maybe you take a bite of food. Maybe you hold hands and sit in quiet. Maybe you laugh because it suddenly hits you that you are officially married.

That tiny pocket of time becomes one of the most honest and emotional parts of the day.

Weddings are months of planning for a day that flies by in a blink. And while the photos, the celebration, the people, and the traditions all matter, nothing replaces those first few minutes alone. They anchor the memory. They give your heart a chance to catch up. They let you step out of the noise and into the meaning of what you just promised.

So when you're told to take that time, listen. Protect it. Guard it. Let those minutes be yours. They will become one of the moments you look back on long after the champagne is gone and the music fades.

And when you step back out into the celebration, you will do it with full hearts, grounded in the truth that this day is not just an event. It is the beginning of your story, and you deserve to feel every second of it.